Breaking Ties and Relationships


Islam promotes benevolence and love between relationships. It places immense stress on the importance of family ties and brotherhood. Breaking ties is considered a colossal sin in Islam as the ayah indicate,

“The believers are nothing else than brothers (in Islamic religion). So make reconciliation between your brothers.” (49:10)

“… and fear Allah through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship)…” (4:1)

“And those who break the Covenant of Allah, after its ratification, and sever that which Allah has commanded to be joined (i.e., they sever the bond of kinship and are not good to their relatives), and work mischief in the land, on them is the curse (i.e., they will be far away from Allah’s Mercy); And for them is the unhappy (evil) home (i.e., Hell).” (13:26)

Likewise the ayahs there are many ahadith that explain the importance of family and the implications of severing ties with relatives:

Abu Ayyub Al-Ansari (RA) said: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “It is not lawful for a Muslim to desert (stop talking to) his brother beyond three nights, the one turning one way and the other turning to the other way when they meet, the better of the two is one who is the first to greet the other.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

When a dispute occurs between two Muslims then unpleasantness between correlations is bound to result from it. In such appalling situations they will naturally not like to speak or maintain contact with each other. Islamic Shari’ah acknowledges the validity of this reaction and grants permission to the party to suspend speech for three days. However, it prohibits prolonging the period beyond three days as longevity of suspension of contacts leads deeper into hatred and enmity. Further To entertain enmity without any major lawful reason is akin to inviting the displeasure of Allah

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “People’s deeds are presented before Allah on Mondays and Thursdays, and then every slave (of Allah) is granted forgiveness (of minor sins) if he does not associate anything with Allah in worship. But the person in whose heart there is rancour against his brother, will not be pardoned. With regard to them, it is said twice: ‘Hold these two until they are reconciled’.” [Muslim]

Any disputation that creates obstruction in family relations and injures the bond of friendship will not enter Jannah.

“Does not enter Paradise he who breaks up his family ties”. (Bukhari)


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